A regular sex life is the foundation of health, and sex during your period is the key to a trusting and intimate relationship with the man you love. However, such intimacy is shrouded in a lot of prejudices and myths, psychological blocks in the heads of both partners.
It is only up to the couple to decide whether or not to make love during your period, but before making a decision, it is better to consider in detail why it is dangerous and beneficial.
Why menstrual sex is undesirable
Monthly discharge in girls is associated with such a physiological process as a slight opening of the cervix. This is what causes pain during the premenstrual period – the contraction of the muscular organ and the appearance of an opening for the outflow of mucous epithelium and blood.
Which means that a woman’s reproductive system literally leaves an “open gate” for infection to enter. Even if both partners are absolutely healthy, opportunistic bacteria from the vagina, which multiply quickly and actively in the blood, can easily move to the uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries, where they cause inflammation.
Why else shouldn’t I have sex during my period? The same processes can happen in the guy’s urethra, where the secretions will also penetrate. Otherwise, according to gynecologists and urologists, medicine has no prohibitions on sexual intercourse during this period.
Can sex during menstruation be useful?
Intimacy during this period helps to reduce the abundance of secretions. Orgasm forces the uterus to contract stronger, allowing it to push out a larger volume of fluid in a short period of time. This also reduces the painfulness of menstruation.
Women are believed to experience a more vivid orgasm during this period. There are three reasons for this:
Increased sexual appetite;
sufficient natural moisturization of the vagina;
increased sensitivity of the cervix due to increased blood flow to it.
Provided some rules are followed, having sex when you have your period is not only not forbidden, but also useful.
Rules of safe sex during menstruation
Making love during these days involves some aesthetic inconveniences, which can be easily leveled if you listen to these tips.
- Keep it clean. To avoid getting your bedding dirty and devoting the rest of the night to removing blood clots from your sheets, use towels. They will soak up all excess fluid.
- Choose the right position. It is better if it will be a classic missionary position, with it the intensity of the discharge decreases.
- Wait out the intense period. The most intense bleeding on the 2-3 day of the cycle, so intimacy can be moved to the very beginning of her period or wait until they begin to end. “Be patient” will have only a couple of days.
- Use protection. Even during this period, there is still a risk of getting pregnant, so the use of contraceptives (if pregnancy is not yet in the plans) is necessary.
Prevention during this period and the choice of contraception – a separate topic. If the husband and wife want to protect themselves only from conception, it will be enough to end intercourse a little earlier than ejaculation, or use spermicidal lubes.
Couples who are unsure of each other’s health are better off choosing a condom. Any unprotected intimate contact can end not only with an orgasm, but also with a sexually transmitted disease.
Men’s Opinion
The answer to the question, whether or not you can have sex during your period, most men have an unequivocal and convincing “Yes”. Especially when it comes to the beloved woman, with whom we are connected by a strong and long-lasting relationship. As for unfamiliar intimate partners, men prefer to abstain.
How women feel about such intimacy
As sociological polls show, sex during periods is unacceptable to most girls and it is due to the aesthetics of the issue, and some ladies have a panic fear of intimacy in these days. They are ashamed that a man will see a dirty pad or smell unpleasant, which will subsequently affect his attitude towards her.
Someone claims that it hurts them to have sex on such days, and they do not get satisfaction because they cannot fully relax and are always waiting for their partner to finish. According to psychologists, the appearance of such feelings is related to psychological barriers.
Sex during menstruation – yes or no
When deciding whether or not to have sex during your period, you should consider all the pros and cons of its consequences.
| The positives | Negative points |
| The brightness of sensations and the very orgasm in ladies increases several times. | The most dangerous period to get STDs, inflammations – even healthy partners can get infected, because the vaginal microflora during this period is particularly active |
| Painful sensations and the duration of menstruation itself are reduced. | Aesthetic discomfort. It is possible to reduce the unpleasant domestic consequences if you postpone intimacy to a time when your period may be just beginning or ending. |
| For some couples, such sex is the embodiment of erotic fantasies, the execution of which will bring a twist to the relationship. | You will have to protect yourself, because the risk of becoming pregnant remains. |
| The desire not to get dirty may be the impetus for making love in new places – the shower, the bathtub, the hayloft, the sea, etc. | The sensations of intimacy increase for both partners, and if the couple uses the method of contraception – “in a shake”, it becomes more difficult for the man to interrupt sex. |
| The sensitivity of the uterus increases, so the likelihood of pain increases. | Menstrual sex can be religiously unacceptable for some couples. For some faiths, it is immoral and sinful to sleep with a woman during her “dirty” period. |
Common Myths
Intimacy during your period, like many things in sex, is shrouded in myths and legends. The most popular are:
You can’t get pregnant during your period.
During menstruation, the unfertilized egg and the top layer of the uterine epithelium leave a woman’s body, renewing the uterus for new conception. The next viable egg will be born after 13-14 days, but only if the woman’s cycle is 27-28 days. If 0n less, 18-20 days, sex was in the last days of menstruation (on 4-5), and the life of the “girl” sperm is 3-5 days, the probability (albeit very small) of having a daughter, after 9 months, remains.
During menstruation women do not want sex, the libido is enhanced only in sick women.
More than half of ladies experience an acute sexual appetite during their periods, decreasing by ovulation. These parameters depend on the characteristics of the body and are not related to the physiological state of the girl.
During menstruation it is better to have anal sex – this will reduce the risk of infection.
With any anal sex there is a risk of E. coli entering the vagina, and during menstruation it increases several times. Conclusion: during the critical days, choose classical intimacy.
Opinion of doctors
Gynaecologists and urologists are not unequivocal on the issue of intimacy on women’s days.
- Obstetricians warn that too active friction and the wrong posture can provoke reflux – the outflow of menstrual blood into the abdominal cavity, accompanied by severe pain syndrome and subsequent adnexitis and endometriosis – inflammation of the ovaries and uterus.
- Doctors also warn about the risk of STDs: even if the partner is not aware of his diagnosis, but feels itching, burning, or observes any discharge, it is worth using barrier contraception. Otherwise, there are no contraindications.
Sex in any form is a pleasant event for two people in love. Therefore, if you follow the rules and there are no contraindications, it makes no sense to refuse it at any time in a woman’s life, whether it’s pregnancy, menopause or menstruation.